It’s important to note that recurring dreams are not always identical but rather may have repeating elements or themes, Ellis says. “If this is the case, it’s helpful to pay attention to the subtle changes that do happen, as they are often a good sign,” she notes, adding, “For example, if a traumatic dream begins to weave in current life places and people rather than replay the trauma exactly, it’s a sign that integration of the traumatic experience has begun.” “For example, I’ve worked with a client who experienced a very long grief process, and the dreams of their loss continued for years as they worked through the feelings around it. A certain amount of repetition is normal, particularly in terms of dream themes. Our dreams tend to follow consistent patterns throughout our lives, so it’s normal for the same themes to circle back around again,” Ellis explains. And as dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells mbg, recurring dreams are also connected to recurring behavior patterns in our waking lives. If you exhibit a particular behavior repeatedly, she explains, you’ll probably keep having the accompanying dream. “These are usually lifelong recurring dreams, when you get the same sort of dream or dream theme for as long as you can remember, likely because it’s connected to a recurring behavior pattern,” she explains, adding a recurring dream about being chased, for example, can indicate a behavior pattern of avoidance. When the behavior changes, the dream will likely stop (but more on that later). As Loewenberg explains, if you’re engaging in a recurring behavior pattern that’s negatively affecting you or stressing you out, it can certainly seep its way into your dreams. “A good example of a stress dream that’s recurring for a lot of people is the tornado dream,” she says, which is often thought to represent stress and a lack of control. She adds that it’s “a good example of a dream that’s connected to a recurring behavior pattern and ongoing issue.” And as Ellis adds, there’s a chance that we dream about the most predominant emotion in our lives at that time. “Stress dreams are interesting in that most people have a hallmark stress dream that places them back in high school, often about to take an exam for a class they haven’t attended all year,” she explains. “It’s as if the dream is picking up on our stress levels and giving us the paradigmatic stress experience to make its point,” she adds. Dreams about being chased or having your teeth fall out, for example, are far from unusual. As Ellis adds, dreams about being naked in public are also common. Here are Ellis and Loewenberg’s potential interpretations of a few common elements of recurring dreams that might show up for you: To dream of a house you’ve never been to, for example, can actually give you clues into how you’re feeling. “It’s important to pay attention to the type of house it is, how well it’s furnished, etc. If it’s run-down, for example, that’s an indication you have recurring bouts of feeling run-down,” Loewenberg says. A mansion, on the other hand, could indicate you have grand ideas or you want to grow and expand. “Dreams about people can be read on the literal level if it makes sense to do so. However, if it’s someone that you can’t simply reconnect with—like a movie star or someone who has died—it is clear this person represents something else,” Ellis explains, adding, “I often ask what qualities stand out about that person, and what it would be like to become more like that—which can bring helpful and surprising information.” “If it’s a friendship from the past or an ex from the past, ask yourself what you were like when that person was in your life—and how is that part of you at play right now?” she explains, adding, “Dreams borrow from the past in order to show us something that’s going on in the present similar to back then.” The best way to stop having a recurring dream, Ellis says, is to take the time to figure out what the dream is asking of you—and then begin to take steps to do it. “If it’s a stress dream around an exam, for example, maybe you need to prepare better for what’s coming. If it’s a traumatic dream, maybe you need to spend time processing the associated memory, ideally with a trauma therapist. If it feels manageable on your own, try going back into the recurrent dream in your mind’s eye, immerse yourself in it, and let it carry forward to a resolution. This usually changes things in some way, and sometimes the dream simply doesn’t return,” Ellis tells mbg. As Loewenberg adds, recurring dreams indicate a “stuckness,” so stopping the dream is about becoming unstuck. “When you get that recurring dream, it’s the subconscious’ way of nagging us. And it has to keep telling us the same thing over and over again until we get the message and act on it—so acting on the recurring dream is the best way to make it stop,” she explains. Ellis and Loewenberg are also both proponents of dream journaling, which can help you interpret your dreams right after they happen. This can be particularly helpful if a dream wakes you up, as jotting down your thoughts on the dream can help clear your mind so you can get back to sleep. And of course, if your recurring dream is also a stressful one, it’s important to work on mitigating the stress in your waking life so it doesn’t creep into your dreams—which brings us to our next point. For less stress, many of the same principles apply, including getting enough sleep and exercising regularly, as well as not overburdening yourself with too many responsibilities. You can also try meditation, aromatherapy, or even a stress-busting supplement like mbg’s calm+.*
